Anger, sadness, love, hope, rage, fear, ecstasy, desire, grief. Whatever it is -- you have the right to feel this way.
A few days ago, a good friend of mine and I were going on a walk and got on the topic of feelings. We both have had partners in the past who have made us feel small for feeling a certain way. We all know how it feels to be belittled. It’s frustrating to be sad and to have someone tell you that you can’t be; or shouldn’t be. It’s even more frustrating when you’re happy about something and someone tells you the same thing. Your feelings are what make you human. We all experience the same emotions at one point or another. Even if the feelings you’re having are towards something negative, such as having a desire for something bad for you, they are still valid.
It isn’t your feelings that you should worry about. It’s how we relate to those feelings that we can focus on. What are your feelings telling you? If you’re in a relationship and you’re desiring someone outside of your relationship, that might mean that you need to focus more on improving the relationship you’re in. If you’re feeling sad about the way you handled a situation, maybe that’s telling you that whatever way you acted isn’t in line with your values and you should choose another path, next time.
Your feelings are how you relate to the world around you. Allow yourself to feel them fully, even the negative ones. Be curious and mindful about what they might be telling you. Accept that they come and go. Above all, don’t ever let someone tell you that you can’t feel them.